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PinkBride
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Having a hard time with 3 languages - 2009/04/15 11:38
Hi everyone,
I just found this website and am so thrilled to read about families here in Dubai and elsewhere, who are facing the same issues.

Our daughter is 2yrs old and we are trying to raise her with 3 languages. I am German, so I speak German, my husband is Italian, so he speaks Italian and our family language is English.

Now I find it really hard for us to stick with our individual languages because my husband does not speak German (whereas I am fluent in Italian as well) and therefor does not understand me when I speak to our daughter. So we started speaking English when we are all together. Also, I seem to be speaking English more than German (after so many years of not living in Germany - I even dream and think in English). So we end up with English and a few tidbits of Italian and German mixed into it. I also sing and read in all 3 languages. A real mish-mash or so it seems to me

Our daughter understands all 3 languages, but does not speak yet. A few words here or there in English or German, but no sentences yet.

I am worried that we are confusing her - but I find it almost impossible to stick to the One Person One Language rule. Does anybody have similar experiences and can help me with some tipps???

Thanks so much for your help!!


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Re:Having a hard time with 3 languages - 2009/04/23 13:12
My son is 2 1/2 years old and we also raise him in 3 languages. I speak German to him, my husband Arabic and he learns English in the nursery. So far it's really going well. He speaks words in all three languages and understands them. We really try to stick to OPOL although every now and then a word in another language may slip in.

My husband doesn't speak any German although he now understands a few words. I do understand basic Arabic. We talk English to each other but only address our son in "our" language.

It is normal that children mix and match languages at this age but you as a parent should try not to. When I tell my son something in German, I translate it to my husband or other people around us.
When my son tells me something in English or Arabic, I will repeat the same in German for him to learn the vocabulary and associate the "right" language to me.
It's about putting in an extra effort and it might seem hard but it is definitely worth it.
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Re:Having a hard time with 3 languages - 2010/10/02 20:06
Nadia B- I think you're doing the right thing. Maybe you're worrying too much about translating for others...

It's not easy, it does take a lot of effort and the child's productive skills may be a bit slower than monolingual children initially, but they soon catch up.
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